Comments on: Is the Problem With Tiger or Is the Problem With Us?

By: vodkalogic

vodkalogic — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 15:45:52 +0000

I recall seeing a show about black woman that only dated white woman. and black men and some black woman were mad about this. The black men said it “thinned' out the availability of decent black woman and the woman that prefered the white men said it was because there werent enough black men, they tended to be less successful or in prison.. seemed a bit rash to me on both sides. As you said people like what they like and I don't see people saying to themselves “I am black but so above dating black woman” I am white and there are certain “types” “appearance” of white men I would probably not date.. not that I am above them, it just doesn't attract me..
I hope I have made myself clear. [sent over by S3x in the pantry]

By: vodkalogic

vodkalogic — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 10:45:52 +0000

By: nukedad

nukedad — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 04:29:07 +0000

I grew up in a city that is 78% hispanic, so technically, I was the minority (go figure). What always amazed me about that was the fact that when something troublesome came up, more often than not some of the hispanic people would cry “racism” and “minority rights!” whenever they didn't get their way. It's the social equivalent of taking your ball and going home. Tiger says he's “Cablanasian”, or whatever, well, I'm Norgermanicirishaustriamerican. Every person in this country could hyphenate their name 6 ways to Sunday and it wouldn't change the fact that everybody wants things done the way they like, when they like, where they like BECAUSE they like it; and it YOU don't like it, then you're accused of being either racist or elitist. That's the problem: most peoples ideological wallets are 5 times thicker than their skin. Tiger's problem isn't that he's black, or Asian, or Thai, or that he sleeps with white women, or black women, or asian women; Tiger's problem is that he cheated on his wife. Period. If people would learn to stick to character and values, all of these questions about race, religion, etc. would take care of themselves. (NukeDad steps from soapbox, exits stage left)

By: mrman

mrman — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 22:40:08 +0000

Good point about the exotic thing, but tell me. Is the media right (in your assessment) that some black women are mad at Tiger for some of the reasons I mentioned?

By: LaTonya

LaTonya — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 21:28:19 +0000

I'm not mad at Tiger, I understand he likes what he likes. He's biracial, and has been exposed to so many different types of people, I am surprised that he didn't marry someone more exotic.

By: mrman

mrman — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 19:42:43 +0000

Agreed. Infidelity aside, it should not matter who he chooses to date. Unfortunately,it still does to some.

By: otter321

otter321 — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 16:36:04 +0000

Growing up in the south the interracial dating or marriage thing was not cool. I feel like there has been some growth in that area, but all of society is not on board. Personally I have no problems with what race any person prefers to marry. Tiger himself is the result of a mixed race marriage so why shouldn't we expect him to do the same. I hope someday this discussion will seem ridiculous to us all.

By: weaselmomma

weaselmomma — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 02:22:45 +0000

Great discussion to start. I could care less that Tiger's wife is white, but I will also admit that I noticed and laughed to myself that all of his known mistresses are white. He definitely seems to have a preference. In the case of OJ, my problem was that he murdered his wife and an innocent bystander and had been an abusive spouse. Color never entered the equation for me, it was more about money, fame and being above the law.
I think what it comes down to is society is made up of individuals and individuals all have their own levels of preferences and tolerances in a wide range and scale. I know people who use racial epithets like toilet paper and people who would never speak one. I know both blacks and whites for and against affirmative action. I know Christians and atheists who are pro and anti abortion. I think it's a matter of we are all individuals with our own thoughts on everything that can be influenced by our societal upbringing but never defined by it.

By: Melzie

Melzie — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 01:23:27 +0000

It's time we learn and embrace the fact that in this day and age people love and bed who they want to, regardless or race or what others think. That post-racial stuff is purely theory in my mind.